I loved you first

essisixx asked: Yeah I know, and I respect that, but I think there could be better ways for horses to race to be honest.

I respect that as well man but you need to be careful about commenting on things you don’t have any experience in. ;)

How-To-Spot-A-Destructive-Relationship

Hello there, this is How-To-Spot-A-Destructive-Relationship brought to you by Jacob Miller. Now before I get into the information you may ask ‘Jacob, why do you think you are experienced enough to comment on relationships?’ Well let me tell you that this information should not be taken as rules to live by, simply guidelines from someone who has been through many destructive relationships and lived to tell the tale. There will always be odd situations in life and in the end, decisions about your own life are all on you, I only hope this will help you to understand if you are in a destructive relationship before any real damage is done to you and the person in question.

•   My first point is mistaking infatuation for love. This is something common in teenagers, generally in their first relationship. Now let me tell you that love is not wanting to be with someone every second of every day in an almost obsessive way, this is infatuation and really if a relationship is based on infatuation it can often become unhealthy. If you find yourself not sleeping, not working (job or homework), becoming a slave to your phone and just generally becoming a recluse because you’re trying to spend as much time with your gf/bf as possible then you have a problem. Love is really just a deep friendship and there is no reason you should want to dedicate your life to your other as if they are some God to be worshipped rather than just be happy knowing that you have a partner in crime to help make life a little more enjoyable. You may read Romeo and Juliet and think ‘Oh how romantic!’ however what you may overlook is that they knew each other for about a week, Romeo was a good 5 years older than Juliet and their constant dramatic acts caused by this infatuation eventually led to their death. Of course I’m not saying that if you continue with an infatuation based relationship then you will die but be prepared for the drama and over-emotional situations that come with infatuation.

• My second point has to do with trying to change your romantic partner for the better. You think to yourself ‘I will change them and I’ll be doing them a favour, I must try to fix them!’ Well if you are thinking this then I’m sorry to say you’re doomed to fail, this isn’t to say that people can’t change, of course people can change but it is up to them to change, no one can decide for them. If in being with someone you get the inkling that they are not quite what you want then chances are they aren’t. You should never try to change anyone and the end result of such an adventure is always resentment and bitterness. If you do have the urge to try to ‘fix’ your partner then save yourselves a lot of heartache and simply become friends instead. Also note that the worst possibility here is believing you can change someone by screaming abuse at them, you may not have noticed yet but people don’t respond well to this and it’s no fun for anyone. Finally if it’s something physical you want to change do not take a leaf out of Delilahs book and cut your partners hair in their sleep, this does not go down very well in modern day society.

• They say the days of chivalry are dead and whilst the stereotypical days of chivalry are dead this isn’t a bad thing. For a guy being a gentleman is a good thing and I certainly don’t discourage it. Pull the chair out for your lovely lady, pay for dinner, and just generally be a good guy however if your partner, male or female, expects you to hand out large amounts of cash and just generally wait on them hand and foot then you are in one of the worst traps to be in. Relationships like I said before are a deep friendship, now a real friendship is not based on ‘what can you do for me’ and whilst friends do things for each other, these things are generally not based on a give and take system. Certainly you can do things that your man or lady may ask you to do but make sure it is because you want to do it for them and not because they are forcing you to do so. If your partner has you doing things you don’t want to or don’t believe in on the basis that ‘they did something for you one time’ then your relationship is not healthy. Relationships are not about forking out exponential amounts of cash on the other person but rather helping each other out, they are the Starsky to your Hutch, you both no doubt have different skills so help your partner out with things you may be better at and they will return the favour but do not have an expectation that they should. A good relationship is based on equality amongst other things and the days of ‘a woman’s job’ and ‘a man’s job’ should be long forgotten. Simply do the things you are best at and they will return the favour and if there is something you are both terrible at then make it a team effort.

 I hope the points I have mentioned here help you in realising whether you are in an unhealthy relationship or not. The problems listed are of course not every problem that can cause an unhealthy relationship but these are certainly some of the more common problems. If you would like me to expand on anything or just ask me any questions then feel free to give me a buzz at jcmiller1119@gmail.com but please know that I’m not an expert and I simply write from my own personal experience. Remember you are a partnership and that partners do not always see eye to eye, just plug through problems and talk like adults and soon enough you will be a joint force to be reckoned with.

Lifes not a bitch,
Life is a beautiful woman
You only call her a bitch cause she won’t let you get that pussy.
Maybe she didn’t feel ya’ll shared any similar interests
Or maybe you’re just an asshole who couldn’t sweet talk the princess.
Take a step back
Do you deserve the prize?
On your path did you stop and hear out others cries?
Maybe you’re just an asshole?
Maybe I’m just an asshole?
Little metal captain, this cat is askin if I’ve seen his bit of lost passion
Told him yea but only when I pedalled past him.
As much drive as a tricycle
Lifeless as far as I can tell.
You need a spiritual jump start
5000 volts to the heart
Pick apart the pixels
And pull yourself back up the life chart
Nothing else will get you out of this part.
I got a friend of polar nature
And it’s all peace
Buy him a beer sometime
And he just might let your pain cease.
Press the speaker wire
And get a sound life
Nothing kills the beast
Like a sharp, lyrical knife.

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Omg Tingleys

When all is said and done, and I’ve had enough.

I’ll still be there to guide you through the rough,

I want to fight and I want to love

So that I know I’m still here.

Just tell me what you want

I’ll tell you if I can deliver.

I need someone to help with the things I carry

And friends aren’t enough for that.

I don’t know how to break through to people,

To go from “that sucks” to “I’ll help you out”

No one ever helps me out…

I don’t blame anyone, selfishness helps you survive.

On the other hand I wish everyone would shut up once in a while.

I don’t want to know what you do at parties,

I want to know what you’re like when you are all alone

Nothing to hide behind…

Give me that and I’ll give you the world.

I don’t know if I don’t know who you are….